Why does the power of habit have such a hold on our lives? We recognise that there are things in our lives, results that come from certain activity, that cause us problems yet we endure rather than change.
It could be suggested that this is a mild form of insanity, and I’d be inclined to agree with that. When we know something is not good for us but we keep doing it, at a psychological level it basically means we are caught by momentum.
It is like we are the witness to this momentum and we become conditioned to accept it. It becomes normal and acceptable to a large degree despite the negative effects.
It’s like the low hum of a refrigerator that we don’t notice until it stops. In the case of a habit that we would rather not have, it may take quite a bit for us to turn off the refrigerator. Sometimes circumstances turn off the refrigerator for us with very disruptive effects.
A bad habit is like a comfortable bed, easy to get into and hard to get out of- Anonymous
The Universe Is Vibrational
Here’s a bit of science for you (broadly speaking)…
For all things in the Universe there are two polarities- positive and negative, and that includes us too, our physical form. You and me are made up of tiny things called atoms, which contain smaller vibratory wiggly things called electrons.
There are around 1014 or 100 trillion (100,000,000,000,000) atoms in a typical human cell. At the subatomic level the contents of the atom are declared to be in a “superposition”, or in other words everywhere and nowhere at all! (more on that another time). Suffice to say; you are a vibrating whirligig of energy controlled by consciousness.
Now, that vibratory entity that you are is pulsating and resonating with stuff in it’s environment and it has momentum. This momentum is very strong and if you resonate with it you feel it at every level of your being. Now, if you don’t know how to command and control this energy within you then it’s likely it will control you.
If we live our lives automatically then we’ll pick up vibratory influence from our family, friends, neighbors, locality, county, state, country and so on. The media has a very significant influence on many of us too.
I prefer to use the word automatic rather than subconscious because I think the word subconscious is thrown around too loosely these days. We see this version of life and cultural trends as simply the way things are, this is normal, we resonate with it.
But normal is not necessarily good for you, and in a lot of cases it’s very bad for you. Many people believe that there is no way to change, there is simply no way out of their current circumstances, because they are caught in the tremendous momentum of their environment.
They can leave their current environment and find change but it may be only temporary. This is why when people get out of jail, or back to their home after a drug treatment program, or leave one abusive relationship, they fall right back into old ways easily.
The treatment doesn’t fix the core issue which is primarily a psychological and secondarily a physiological problem. When they arrive home they slot straight back into the momentum of the vortex of the way life was when they left it. The power of habit meant they had still a thought form to it, like an electrical connection.
The Power of Belief
The power of momentum of vibration does not only apply to those with chronic addictions and social problems at the extreme, many “normal” and “respectable” people have serious issues around addiction and destructive behaviour.
It applies to everyday life habitual tendencies too. Like what time you get up and go to bed, what you eat for lunch, what you do to relax, how much exercise you do, how you speak and the tone you use under stressful circumstances etc.
Our whole lives are run by background belief systems and habits of action that form out of those beliefs. Freud directs us back to our childhood for the beginning, the formation of our beliefs which in turn dictate our behavior.
Thought Is Vibrational
Thought is vibrational, it has a measurable frequency. When we think thoughts they vibrate out into the universe and will be brought into alignment with thoughts of the same vibration. That’s why people with the same interests, no matter how small the niche will hang out together, they will find each other once they put it out there.
It explains why when you are on a roll you are on a roll, be it a good roll or a bad roll. It doesn’t much matter, you will get what you are giving your attention and focus to. It explains why a bad day just keeps getting worse before it gets better.
At some point we just throw in the towel and say “I’ve had enough”. Then things start to improve. When things are going bad we occupy the negative side of the wave, when things are going good we occupy the positive side of the wave.
We are vibrating entities, remember that. The whole Universe is singing one song (Uni Verse; One Song). The sine wave is a representation of you and fluctuates depending on the level of energy we are putting into the function we are currently engaged in.
It doesn’t matter if we are railing against something or in the flow of something, we will be like the lens of a camera getting more and more detail the greater we focus on the subject. The subject doesn’t matter.
How To Change A Habit
The power of habit is the playing out of our psychological resonance to belief systems and environment. They are the thought forms made manifest at the physical level. To change the ones we don’t want can take some serious effort and not surprisingly, many fail. But it can be done differently, easily and with long term success.
There’s only one way you will succeed and that’s if your why is bigger than your how. In other words you will not achieve the results you want unless you are totally compelled to do so. Not to achieve your goal is not even on the table, there is no plan B for you, you are burning the boats, you’ve decided there’s no way back.
This is a state of mind that comes of itself and is necessary to achieve the formation of any new habit. This is not a gritting the teeth approach, it is not a do or die scenario, although you can achieve some degree of results this way but it is a tough way to go about it.
The easier route is a quiet inner knowing that you are on your way to a new place, and it is achieved by centering yourself on yourself. Centering yourself within first and moving from there is infinitely more powerful than efforting from a place outside yourself.
Most of the people in the world move from a place outside themselves. They take action believing that action alone will be the difference, however it is not. Action taken by a person centered in herself is a universe more powerful than millions who are not.
If you are looking for a process then the simplest and most effective start is through mediation. Here’s what I’d suggest;
- Find a quiet space where you will not be disturbed for about 30 mins.
- Find a guided meditation audio like this one
- Before starting take 10 mins to imagine the outcome you wish to experience. Just focus on how you’d like to feel rather than the details. Details will come in time, that’s not your job now.
- Listen and meditate for 20 mins and allow thoughts to pass by your mind without engaging them.
- Do this daily for as long as it takes until you experience the results.
Some may suggest that sitting in a room meditating doesn’t get much done, and that in order to achieve something you must do. Well the fact is; doing from a position outside yourself is useless as I said. Once centered, doing occurs on it’s own. You will be inspired to do rather than forcing yourself to do.
There is a fundamental difference.
The power to achieve whatever we wish to experience is within us, but often we look outside to find it. Ironically it seems that we must leave where we are to realise that all we wanted was right here where we started.
I’ve tried the hard way and I know it doesn’t work. Going the hard road has taught me valuable lessons and has made me who I am, and I am larger for the experience thankfully.
By virtue of going the hard, dogged, determined route, doing or dieing, shouting and screaming, I have come to understand that all the value in life is achieved when we take it easy. When we take the time to look around and absorb the experience and have our fun in the now, rather than put it off to some point in an imaginary future or personal ideal.
Whatever experience you wish to have, whatever you wish to become, the ability to realise it is available to you, this I know. The power of habit can be your friend if you can harness it.
You do not need to leave your room. Remain sitting at your table and listen. Do not even listen, simply wait, be quiet still and solitary. The world will freely offer itself to you to be unmasked, it has no choice, it will roll in ecstasy at your feet.- Franz Kafka